Monthly Archives: January 2012

Roll with It.

If I were my own best friend I would remind myself to be ready for…

a serving of “roll with it.”

***Holy moly. I woke up this morning with a plan, a list, and a huge number of things I was going to accomplish. And then… I get served a big ol’ plate of “roll with it.” 

It was barely 7 am. 

First I tried to fight the plate. I battled. I fussed. I raised my blood pressure. I paced and bemoaned. There was nothing to be done. Like a pretzel with hot mustard sauce my “roll with it” just stared back at me. It was a calm roll with a slightly spicy “it” sauce on the side. It knew it would eventually win. 

Finally I sat down and ate my “roll with it” (like I should have done to begin with) and got on with my day. It was a good reminder to not get too attached to  “my plan.” Because most of the time there really is no plan. 


Winner, winner!

Ooooh, it’s so fun getting to announce a winner… I love it!

I love having the opportunity to give something away.

I love that FIVE whole souls took the time to write a comment and share their thoughts. Thank you! It brings me great joy to read your comments, whenever you post them.

I love getting to randomly pick someone to win (I wish I could pick all of you!).

The winner of our first-ever-giveaway-on-this-blog-is: 


I will be contacting you via email to find out your mailing address so I can get your drawing sent off to you. Yay!

Congratulations! And again THANK YOU  to everyone who took the time to comment. It truly made my week.


What do you see?

If I were my own best friend I would revisit a favorite childhood pastime and invite you to join me in playing…

What do you see?

What can it be?

***I LOVED this game as a kid. L-O-V-E-D it. It is super-simple, can take less than 60 seconds a round, and makes you think. It gets the creative juices flowing and may nudge you to the edge of your comfort zone. It gives you the opportunity to see something from a different perspective and might even help you grow a little. And you do not have to be one-tiny-iota-of-a-little-bit artistic. Cool, eh? 

Here’s how it works: 

  1. Grab a piece of scratch paper or a couple of napkins or something you can draw on
  2. Grab a pen or pencil
  3. Ask a partner to draw you a random scribble (line, shape, dot, squiggle, anything goes…) – or just draw something for yourself. Keep it simple. 
  4. Take the scribble back – your time starts now (60 seconds to make it quick, longer if you want) – make the scribble into a picture, a word, anything! What do you see? What could it be? 

I offer you today’s scribble as your “first round.” Print it out. Take 60 seconds (more if you want to). Draw a picture. See what you come up with. I will post my “drawing” later this week. If you are so inclined, feel free to send me your finished product. I would love to see what comes up! 

Do you have any favorite games from your childhood that you suddenly feel the need to resurrect? 

I will warn you though… you may find this to be completely addictive. Hours of road trips and airplane flights have been passed making drawings out of scribbles and never once asking… “are we there yet?”. 

In a Jar.

If I were my own best friend I would remind myself…

sometimes it is hard to know where you are from the inside…

especially if you are stuck in a jar

A jar of strawberry jam? maybe raspberry? ketchup? perhaps mustard? dijon?

where am I?

***A few weeks ago I received a post from a blog I follow (Gaping Void by Hugh Macleod) that stuck with me – it basically said “it’s hard to read the label on the outside of the jar when you are on the inside.” Here is the original post if you want to check it out:

Images related to this just kept popping into my head. What if I woke up one day in a jar of strawberry jam? Like one of those silent black-and-white mimes I would feel around the edges and realize I was in a jar and somehow I could breathe jam! Cool. I could see pink and red, it would be sweet and sticky, I would really hope I had some toast and butter. What about a jar of ketchup? Different shape, not as sweet, little tangy, probably a massive french-fry craving soon to follow. Which got me thinking about mustard… very yellow, might want a hotdog… 

I could go on and on, but the point is, sometimes you cannot tell where you are when you are there. I know that doesn’t completely make sense. If you stop and look at where you are RIGHT NOW you know that you are sitting or standing or lying down. You can most likely see the physical surroundings, hear the ambient noise and have some sense of smells in the air. You know WHERE you are, but it can be hard to know where that is in relation to a bigger picture. 

Are you in the beginning of something really great? Did you just meet the love of your life? Are you stuck in a dead-end a job? Do you find yourself in a bad relationship? It is hard to tell WHERE you are. I am not saying “being in the jar” is a bad thing or a good thing. I’m simply saying we often cannot tell what jar we are in until we get out of it or until someone we trust tells us “hey you’re in a jar.” 

Thank you for Snow Days.

If I were my own best friend I would remind myself to be grateful for…

  1. snow days
  2. snowflakes
  3. snow plows
  4. warm and toasty drinks
  5. snowmen

***All of these things make me feel like a kid. Sometimes it is nice to have a day that reminds you to be grateful for the child that still lives in all of us. Making snowmen. Catching snowflakes on your tongue. Having the day off because of snow. Watching snow plows drive by (they have always reminded me of some sort of cross between a rhinoceros and a robot, don’t know why…). And finally, warming up with a steaming hot drink when you come back inside. 

Do you like the snow? Do you feel like a big kid when it snows? Or do you get cranky? When is the last time you got to throw a snowball at someone? How about making a snow angel? I love snow! 

The measure of a man.

If I were my own best friend I would reflect on a quote from Martin Luther King, Jr. …

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

***I have loved this quote for a long time. It reminds me that you do not really know who someone is when they are sitting on their couch, sipping wine, watching TV. Instead, pay attention to what happens when the couch they are sitting on falls through the floor into the sewer, the wine causes some wacky transformation where they grow horns out of their ears and start barking like a dog, and the TV show was a thriller that is suddenly taking place in their home. Yes, I know, completely ridiculous. 

The point is that the moments that challenge and push us are also the moments that define us. 

Thank you Martin Luther King, Jr – your light lives on. 

A Giveaway (the first one!!)

It’s the first-ever giveaway on “If I were my own best friend”  and I am sooo excited. I am celebrating all you wonderful readers, 120+ posts, a brand new year, and subscribers well into the double digits… it is time for a giveaway! Yay!

Sometime last week I received an email from WordPress (the fine website that allows me to post this blog) and it had all sorts of fun information. I had no idea I would receive an email that reviewed my year, but there it was happily sitting in my Inbox. It listed how many posts I did last year and how many people are subscribed and how many times the site was viewed and…. most importantly, the MOST VIEWED POST, along with a whole lot of other stuff.

I decided therefore, for my first time doing a giveaway I would offer an original, signed, matted drawing of that post. I am planning on a 5×7 finished drawing size and a matte that would fit an 8×10 frame.

The most viewed post of 2011 was called: Optimism (originally posted on July 22nd, 2011)

Here is the original image:

Here is the link to the original post:

Here is how to enter to win, along with a few legal-disclaimer-type-things:

  1. Leave a comment at the bottom of this post – it can be anything! What you like about the blog? What you’d like to see more of? What you don’t like? Your favorite color. Your favorite meal of the day. A big hello. You get the idea.
  2. On Friday, January 20th at 5 pm PST I will close the giveaway. That gives you a whole week to get in your comment (so there is no pressure if you get writers’ block).
  3. The winner will be chosen using a random number picker thingy. I will post the winner by  Monday, January 23rd.
  4. Please include your email so I can get in touch with you to mail the drawing.
  5. Disclaimer-thing: The drawings I make for this blog are all hand-drawn and I don’t keep records of what colors I use where and when, so please know that the drawing you receive will probably be a little different from the original on the post – but it will be an original just for you!

There you have it!  The first-ever-giveaway-on-if I were my own best friend.

P.S. There is absolutely no pressure to enter or leave a comment. I just wanted to try out something new and see how it goes! 🙂